wow. r got promoted.

i was thinking whether to mention it or not.

i have always been confused around such kind of decision. i somehow remember the indecisiveness i showed in case of p. in retrospect, everything is so clear. hopefully i have learnt. its always better to be prejudiced than not have an opinion at all. i still dont believe in that statement.

i had these big ideas i wanted to write about. major epiphanies. life changing. its his way of making our lives interesting i guess.

so i was talking to s and as it always does the subject just drifted to marriage and related topic. he mentioned that he will say yes to the first girl he meets. all girls are good, he said. munh kee baat chheen li.

and i told him that we have got matured over these years. i guess i was talking for myself. now i dont crib why they dont call me more frequently. now i just feel happy that they called. patience. the greatest virtue of all time.

and i also like the words 'drift' and 'converge'. i hope my life is a converging series even though it might seem drifting away.

and i feel a serious shortage of money these days. i need to earn some extra money is what i feel. i need to work on it. i am also thinking about registering for courses. lets see how that goes.

Posted in: on Saturday, June 30, 2012 at at 12:37 AM 0 comments  

she comes into my life. and she smiles when i sing. and she also scares the shit out of me.

Posted in: on Tuesday, June 12, 2012 at at 8:40 PM 1 comments  

i had something to write about. cant remember it now. that is one of the reasons why i wanted to buy note. dont have enough money though.

i was just looking at a rooftop view of a landscape most probably taken in Bangalore. I will own a home at 19th floor of some building in Bangalore. I like the idea.

Great.

for sometime now, i cannot sleep. is it ac? is it physical discomfort to begin with. dont know.

yess. now i remember. i wanted to write about mag n. he is one of a kind. and he irritates the heck out of me. but i like him. mostly because i think that he gives me the feeling that i understand him. that was some realization.

and i remember again. i have an inertia towards change. seriously man. you need to be in control. understatement. dont worry if you are not completely expressed by the time you die, it will still be better than adulteration. be thankful. but be quiet.

and i remember again. i wanted to talk about the idea of home. i could write an article on it. i remember about it when i hear - where do we go now?! - played. that one phrase sums up the idea of home. you can always go home. that is your exit strategy.

also i need to relax and not care for few things irrelevant. see how that turns out. dont pretend that you care. be honest etc.

this turned out to be above average post.

Posted in: on Wednesday, May 30, 2012 at at 7:12 PM 0 comments  

what do i want to write.

on my flight, back from raipur, i gathered courage and vanity to talk to a girl sitting next. it was inspiring. thanks to mag n.

and what else? this is may. supposed to be very hot. as a child, i liked summer. i did my bit of kite making and kite flying. and we generally roamed around. on burning earth. played cricket. it was good. definitely.

i cant remember when i was happy the last time. i see some fleeting images. but not any concrete incidences.  first year at iit was the best. infinite lukhkhaness. will never come back.

for a couple of weeks now, i get a depressing feeling at morning. not good.

finished reading anna karenina. i dont feel like reading anything else now. bought a book on indian history but it would be a long time before i read it.

what else? i need to find a way of passing time. killing time rather.

this is a depressing post. like most of my depressing post, i think it is pointedly exaggerated and i am not as sad.

Posted in: on Monday, May 21, 2012 at at 7:52 PM 0 comments  

after so long.

i went home. came back. bought a dongle back home and now we video chat. great stuff.

i fell sick. the normal kind. the one that makes you miss your family terribly and make u wish that u had the courage to quit and return. this is not the first time i fell sick. i felt sick at iit. realized there that if you have fever you shud not wrap yourself in blanket, rather endure the coldness and hopefully fever will go.

in bangalore, it was more terrible, u were supposed to go office and work. shit that was some experience. how did i get better. i guess it was a matter of time. i will eventually go and see a doctor. have blood test etc. a friend recommended dolo 650 and that was a life saver.

here in gurgaon, i went office but was scolded and sent back. a colleague/friend also took me to see a doctor. real nice of him. and i did not go office for the rest of the week and missed  home terribly. multiple times i thought how i was gonna spend my rest of life. places like these give u a feeling of being stuck forever.

i also went and watched a movie alone. did not like it much. vicky donor.

what else can be done. i am generally fine with being alone. i should not think that i am missing out on life.

and work is particularly boring these days.

ok. wrapping it up.

Posted in: on Friday, May 18, 2012 at at 7:22 PM 0 comments  

Continuing on my 'cowardice' theme.

Artists are cowards, mostly. 'Artists use lies to tell the truth,' as pointed out by V. And I agree. It makes perfect sense. Isn't fiction or poetry a mean(should there be an s) to conceal your secrets? Artists also want the approval of the audience. Which also makes them sad. Anyway, that would be a different time.

So, I was thinking of different stories that could emerge out of a seed situation, a trigger incident and 'cause and effect' relationship.

It all comes down to understanding the basic setup I guess.

What would be some of the interesting seed situations? A seed situation could be about a person (obviously me) realizing contradictions. Trigger could be his attempt to bring consistency to his behavior. So that's it. A trigger is an agent of change. Experiments. I feel pathetic. And yet relieved.

But I will write a story.

Posted in: on Thursday, April 5, 2012 at at 7:33 PM 0 comments  

when are we most funny? 'when we are honest,' i concluded.

honesty also means courage. courage to say the truth. be ready to accept the consequences.

'am i honest?,' you ask yourself.

being silent. playing safe. is that cowardice? i think it is. it is also maturity. maturity and cowardice are so inter-related. it is a matter of point of view i guess.

these are all fragmented thoughts. left as cues. and one day, i will read it up and compile it into story of my life. that was tragic.

i feel particularly pathetic nowadays. greeting people up in the morning is so not me. also i have a style. i should maintain the style. under-expression. oh yeah.

i went to see chiriyaghar. it was the first occasion i was truly impressed with delhi.

is that all?

so there is a movie, where different characters are characters. so you have vengeance fighting duty for supremacy.

and what is important?

this is a sad post. different but sad.

Posted in: on Monday, April 2, 2012 at at 9:36 PM 0 comments  

It was a Saturday. I got a call from my brother in law. He said that he was forced to observe fast on the occasion of Shivaratri. And I thought I will not eat today as well. I thought I will do it the proper way and hence not drink water as well. I felt ridiculous at the thought of not having done it before. 27 years already, high time. But then I became little reasonable. I said I will drink water. So I went to meet my friend as planned. He asked me whether I wanted to eat. I said no. He said OK and started eating. And I started eating as well.

Why am I writing this? I definitely had a point.

Yes. So I am trying to define ultimate rule set. Things that I will do when encountered with the mammoth task of making a decision.

So I went home. I didn't smoke for a week. While I was at it I though that I will not smoke again for rest of my life. I had tried that before. I met recently-to-be-engaged Mr J and I thought that I will smoke as soon as I had company. I came back and did not smoke for 5 days. Then I smoked again. Today I smoked again. What is the rule set here?

One rule, working for sure, is that all rules can be bent. Unless I make that an official rule and then break it. Not funny at all.

But what's with this? I think it could be a good life. Rule based. I am experimenting with them. That's the only way to truth. Experiments. Otherwise you will never know.

I am procrastinating again. You would not believe it but I spelled that in one shot straight. I get a feeling that I am about to do something. I just need to get the feeling that I am 'in the moment'. For quite sometime I have been looking at myself as someone from outside. I need to take control, talk less and do something.

Posted in: on Wednesday, March 21, 2012 at at 9:30 PM 0 comments  

i was sitting on this railing kind of structure waiting for my friends to come back. and i was thinking about what it is that makes someone great. essentially about its knowing what to do and then having the courage to do it. intelligence and courage, i summarised. at that point, it struck to me that i had arrived at these two qualities with some logical deduction which appeared very novel, but as i write this i am not very impressed.

so a friend visited. met him almost after 5 years. wow. and it didnt feel like he has changed. whcih basically proves tht people dont change. and is that not true?! we only learn to manipulate our image.

so suppose, that this world started with an initial state. and there are n variables that define that state. if you believe in cause and effect which incidently i do, you should be able to clearly draw out a map of all future states.

but there has to be an element of randomness and that is why i think that initial state must have been in an equilibrium with equal probability of things turning their course into two opposite sides. and ones they are far from that equilibrium state it can not be reversed.

at this point in time, i have a strong urge to put a disclaimer that says that i feel idiotic pretending that i have realised something new, and even though i have done it already, i resolve to not do that in future. in a way, this is one disclaimer for all future posts.

coming back to the point - people not changing - is true but there are still some traits that they have not shown - and these are the traits that should be exhibited with extreme care to draw that map of future and may be that is why you should take extra time to resolve your moral dilemma because once you have decided everything else is benchmarked and kind of decided.

i know that few examples and a smoother language would have made this post really thought provoking. for the time being, i am just happy that i was able to put it out as text.

Posted in: on Sunday, March 18, 2012 at at 1:04 AM 0 comments  

This is going to be a year of resolving contradictions. At least a year that sees me giving awareness a chance. And as I keep on talking about this my ignorance is at its peak. This kind of pride can only originate from ignorance. Ignorance that accomplishment is only a matter of resolve.

I am almost lyrical there. And I am making a conscious effort of connecting with the reader and it’s me taking my first steps.

So I watched this Japanese drama series. A pianist is asked by his teacher – ‘whom do you play for?’ and he says ‘For myself.’ The pianist is not well recognized but the teacher is aware of his potential. Eventually the protagonist realizes his full potential when he plays piano for someone else.

Khi, khi. Yes I am that pianist. And this is me trying to protect original me. I am not sure if you ever noticed but sometime quite early on this blog I wrote – ‘with each passing day, we lose some part of originality’. Don’t you think it was quite deep and futuristic for that time? I think it was still something better though. And I feel proud that I wrote that. And I can totally feel ashamed right now seeing this post as a lame attempt to a writing practice class. I finally feel home.

But the question remains - do I edit or do I not. I don’t know what I am trying to protect when everything is borrowed anyway. That’s another deep thought. I am going deeper in shit, is what I feel.

Anyway, this post was supposed to have an objective - more of an experiment actually where I consciously give serious damn to make some sense. Maintain a flow of thoughts, exemplify, simplify and see if that makes me feel better. If that brings additional clarity. If that takes me closer to the truth. That’s three in a row.

So I had this rather honest conversation with a relatively younger person - an ex colleague actually. And he doesn’t even know how lucky he is to find an anonymous mention here. So he talks a lot. And I don’t mind actually because I find it incredibly hard to talk randomly even though it may sound random. Hehe. And I laugh. Excuse me.

Ok. So we are rather discussing this point. To express or not. Particularly, if you feel something very strongly – should you say it out loud or not. I told him that if we do that, we are looking for approval, external validation and that shows lack in self belief. This was a catch 22 situation. I hope you realize that.

Posted in: on Tuesday, February 28, 2012 at at 10:01 PM 1 comments  

this will be a quicky. i am not quite sure what i an going to write.

and i could end the post right here saying that i dont give a damn.

anyways, my weekends have been crazy busy lately. let me count. sister, brother, bangalore, agra, home. seriously. and i wanted to do so many things. and its already two months. and here i am.

but it put things in perspective. once you find something, you need to hold to it, not give it up so easily.

and i am a very neutral person, without preference. and i think that is bad. and i look for consistency when i am not consistent when it comes to me and the world. that sucks.

what else?

Posted in: on Monday, February 13, 2012 at at 11:03 PM 0 comments  

time flies by.

and that sounds as if i am writing this watching my grandson getting married or something. but isnt that truth. so lately, i have become quite indifferent to the fact that i am writing quite explicitly. its not good. honest is never artistic.

so i finally went and attended a wedding. and i want to write so much about it. good times. communication is a recurring theme. its the only way of connecting. and there is so much background to that one moment when you connect to someone else. gives you the feeling of an end. i wish i could be more happy. and i wish i could be ignorant.

there was this movie, i guess in some foreign language and i happen to put it on tv as it was going to end. there is this girl in a school uniform. and she boards a bus. she stands near driver and looks out of glass window. for initial few seconds you think that she is looking at something, maybe on road. but after those few seconds, you realise she is looking at you. and at that precise moment, i knew the movie was going to end.

what else? there are few more things that i want to write about. but i have come to realise that sometimes its best not to express. sometimes, its best to build up on it till its actually the end.

thats quite some line.

Posted in: on Monday, February 6, 2012 at at 8:10 PM 2 comments  

This is 200th. I wanted to write that I want to make it special but I really dont. I will write few things here and there. In my earlier analysis, I had established how the number of posts is inversely proportional to quality of posts for a given duration. i think that is true. but mostly i guess it has to do with freshness of the posts. i think i will pull one this off quite decently.

and its 10 already? i completed one month in this part of the world. good good. and i want to finally settle in raipur. yess. i will own a home in bangalore as well. but that is different.

and how completely real things look. so completely within reach. its unbelievable at times. but then you become aware.

aah. i just remembered what i actually wanted to write about. when was the last time you heard your heart beat so loud you got scared that it would burst open. arent those the moments that you are so so aware that you are alive? extreme emotions. fear is one of them. and may be love is the extreme. okk.. now you think i wrote all this to talk about love. i wrote this last line in fond memory of more energetic ignorant happy and young me - i could have written rest of this post just in this point - i was talented back then. haha. i feel fresh.

coming back to the point - it was that night when i wanted to sleep to be able to wake up early next morning - i got so scared i woke up. and i thanked god as never before to have friends come over to my place for visiting me. i had two pegs, we listened to old hindi songs, mostly from pyasa and talked about how handsome dharmendra was and how talented sanjeev kumar was. good times - completely justifies consumption of alcohol.

another night was when i prepared some material for sas training. shit, it sounded so stupid. it still does. it was four in the morning and few hours before we get into session. i was so bloodly proud and happy, i could not sleep thinking i wish i had the class right now so i could teach them.

and to end the post - how much do you know yourself if you have never been in a fight? that is from fight club.

path to self discovery, is it?

Posted in: on Tuesday, January 10, 2012 at at 7:56 PM  

it was 'timing', 'packaging' and 'summarization'.

the secret to money making is same as that to comedy - timing. i picked that up from 'a good day'. you need to be really thoughtful when you decide to take plunge. and i can recite examples of blunders that i have dont in term of timing it extremely wrong. however, i shouldn't think about it much. its only in the hind sight that you recognise simplicity of affairs. but it is still very difficult to keep it simple. i understand that quite well now.

i am diverting in thoughts now. i tend to be very mindful of what a stranger is thinking of me. i think its because of my self-deprecating behavior. i need to keep a check on it. the sad part is that the people that i know very well, i find it easier to say no to them. that last sentence does not make sense at all. and i dont mean just grammatically.

coming to packaging - isn't that the most important part of selling? i need to understand vanity and importance of this. projections are reality anyway. this world is not like matrix.. it is matrix.

and to know truly, you need to summarize accurately. that means taking much trouble in filtering and searching till you get what you want. a book that translates my technical understanding to philosophy of life is much awaited, i guess.

one more thing, i don't know why but i project this image of uncertainty around people mostly strangers - i think its my sad way of connecting with them. but there are people just talking to whom makes me know what i want. Isnt it too good a feeling to have such people around you?

It's big time that i start writing a book. i still feel that it will be a while before it slides all down-hill.

and i received roses from a girl. thank you.

Posted in: on Thursday, January 5, 2012 at at 8:53 PM  

I have something stuck between one of my teeth and i feel like using a gun to bring it out.

so its been so long since i last posted. i didnt have a laptop when i moved here and primary reason for me buying this was to be able to posted. it made me realise how much i liked blogging. i actually started writing stuff down on a diary. most of it was a more elaborate version of 'i am stupid' but what the heck! my hand writing is particularly bad. now that i have all the time in the world, maybe i will get my hand writing to a decent level. may be learn calligraphy etc.

see i had so much to write about and i am writing all the nonsense. and i am not even writing it to sound funny. Reading my past posts have become a habit lately. and i like the ones written very early (2007) and the later ones (2009-2010). transition time is always bad i guess.

as always i am doing a lot of self analysis now. the only question that remains now is - should i get polished or not? is it really worth it. maybe i will write a rulebook on how i intend to behave.

i also wanted to write about 'timing', 'packaging' and 'i forgot what it was'. well lets not bore ourselves by talking about what prompted me to say that.


have a happy new year satish.

Posted in: on at at 12:18 AM  

this is post number 197. i think i will write a couple before end of this month and make it 200.

so what is happening in my life? i am in that phase of my life again. but it is so different in so many ways.

there are times when things are absolutely clear but then we try to get more clarity and things are suddenly blurred. its like adjusting a camera lens.

Posted in: on Saturday, November 19, 2011 at at 12:58 PM  

i drove my friends motorcycle for about 2 months i guess when he was not here. i dont have a license and i know i should get one. there was one particular instance when i got held up by police and was asked to show my papers etc. after about ten minutes, i had to give them 500 bucks cause i did not have hundreds. i remember asking one of them if he had change.

for earlier part, it was so bloody dangerously exciting. and there were close encounters as well. yeah, and i drew some parallels as i so often do now a days. being always under control or anticipating moves or breakers. yeah, driving can teach you a lot.

i keep on getting signals that i need to be better at organization and communication. aah, there was a time when i thought that as i get more polished externally i will lose the rawness that can make me great. i don't feel that that often now. i think i have already lost it.

and i was talking to a friend about how we should use analytics in solving bangalore's traffic problem. and i realised that i would love to do my further studies in this field. i need to follow this much awaited lead.

Posted in: on Sunday, October 30, 2011 at at 2:17 AM  

so there are these gals in my previous team i want to write about. i am only too aware that the post will only try to capture unsuccessfully how strongly i have felt about them. but i think it will be better than forgetting about it completely.

i have spoken quite a few times about my fascination with phrases. particularly about 'sense of duty.'

so there is this girl who has established quite a standard with her sense of duty. amazing she is. as all of them are. but she is a personal favorite.

i have moved to a different team and i don't get to interact with them quite often. but i ask them at times to join me for a snack break once in while. i don't usually prefer asking people for joining me for any kind of break. but there company i truly enjoy and i am sure they enjoy mine as well. but i have to be careful in asking them to join me because most likely they will join me even if they had other important things on their mind - i feel and have always felt a sense of responsibility when i interact with them. i am far from political correctness and they are well aware of it as well. but there are times when i am very tensed. and it shows. terrible mood swings that i have - as R1 pointed out in one of our snack breaks. she is specially concerned for me i guess. yeah so she said that i usually have terrible mood swings. she casually added that i should have noticed that the team did not bother me much when i was in a 'bad' mood and i said instantly 'was that because of you?'. and now when i think i am sure of it.

i hope that any of the above written text does not make any sense. to anybody else because it perfectly does. to me.

her parents should be so proud of her. she is like the perfect kid. you know how you always feel that 'familiarity breeds contempt'? and that basically stops you from attempting to know more about another person that you hold in very high regard - in due course of time i have come to know few things about her and it has just made me a bigger fan and a better person maybe. there are far more memories and i think I will write them down. and may be I will not post this entry. or may be i will.

when i joined the team, it was not on a good note. i had tried quitting the company and i was stupid as i am now. anyway, i went through this phase where i analysed myself as a person and established that i was a coward. but before that i was in a mode where i thought that i was doing everybody a great deal of favor by staying here. yeah, that feeling..

Anyway, i am not much of an interaction guy, and now when i look back i have a real hard time figuring out when exactly we clicked. i remember few specific instances. one, where she said that they(the kids) will not be afraid of me just because i was shouting on top of my voice. and that was when i realized that my way of talking actually bordered to shouting and then i took sometime in explaining how that was my natural way of speaking. and they completely got me. seriously now that i look back i cannot even recall who these kids were before these specific instances. i was generally mad at myself and i was so much into coding. that was best phase of my professional career i guess.

there was another instance where she had one chocolate and i wanted her to give it to me. instead she gave it to someone else. and i got mad. then went out and when i came back she had saved a very small portion of the chocolate. and i took it happily. i mentioned this because given that she didn't give me the chocolate at that time and having known her since then i am sure she didn't give it to me because she didn't like me. another point about her - she is very selective about her friends.

then there was a phase when she was my 'go-to' girl whenever i wanted to have something done. I always had a feeling that she wouldn't disappoint me and she never did. so if it was to follow-up with IT to restart a remote machine or getting a thali for lunch, she was always there. once i realized this i couldn't ask for anything unnecessary - even as a joke.

and then there was a phase when a friend and the lead of the team was asked to leave the team. that was some time. i felt so let down by the team. every day i would contemplate leaving the team or the company. i just couldn't understand. i still can't understand. but i think it's OK. maybe i will ask her but mostly i wont.

And then there was a phase when she had almost left the company. hehe.

And then there is this phase where all i am is thankful. to have known her.

Posted in: on Saturday, October 8, 2011 at at 8:41 PM 1 comments  

i think that i should write more frequently. before i forget things.

anyway, i have random, scary and very real dreams almost every night now. so i had this dream where i guess i was drowning and i was trying desperately to stay afloat. someone is trying to pull me down by my legs. i am shit scared and i give a sharp kick to get my leg free. next thing i know i am wide awake, in pain most probably with an injured toe as i have hit the wall next to my bed in full force.

and i was still scared. the pain will go i knew. but this feeling that i am losing my sense of reality was overwhelming. so this is how people go insane i thought.

work related update - i am moving to a new team. i am not very hands on. and i am still not very sure what i want to do for rest of my life. i am taking sas training (as a trainer) by the way. i took it so to get a change in work life. but even that becomes frustrating. i know i can be a great teacher if i am little more patient. and i am very patient. but somewhere carelessness has another level of effect on me. anyway, i think the thing we remember most about our teachers is not the depth of knowledge that they had, but how patient they were with us.

the thing that upsets me most is that i was upset in the class. it is kind of an infinite loop situation where i really dont want to go to prove my smartassedness. age has that effect on people.

and i am 26. at times i think i dont have an objective in my life. then few things here and there and i am already contemplating suicide (btw i have decided not to be philosophical about death) and then i think why not take that jump to do the absolute impossible without any fear of risk if i am willing to risk my life uselessly. this para, i think i shouldnt have written.

Posted in: on Monday, August 15, 2011 at at 10:36 PM  

So continuing on my fascination with words. Today’s word of the day is ‘sustenance’. You know you are old when you start talking about sustenance. Seriously. It’s more related to survival. And giving in I guess. Succumbing to your circumstances. But somewhere it is maturity as well. Well let’s not go around in circle. Where is the circle?

Yeah, so working late everyday is not sustainable. Being frustrated is not sustainable. Smoking all day empty stomach is not sustainable. Being angry is not sustainable. Enough of examples already. I want to move to that phase now where I have mediocre, thermodynamically feasible goals. After so many days, I think I am finally in mood of sounding funny.

I am sitting little far from my team now. I think that has definitely reduced the stress level. Seriously, you think few things are nonsense and they work as a charm. Duriyaan hain jaroori.

Also, I was talking to chaure who is in London by the way. First one of us to have flown abroad. So he called me. I mentioned that he was the first one to fly abroad. He said ‘sorry dost. Tumse pahle chala aaya’ in not very sarcastic tone. And I said ‘its ok. I am..’ and I stopped after ‘am’ and he said that ‘kyun ruk gaye dost? I am proud kahne wale the kya?’. And yes that was what I wanted to say.

Seriously, chaure is mind-blowing.

Posted in: on Tuesday, June 28, 2011 at at 12:00 AM  

seems like a long time. also seems like few of my posts are deleted - the feeling that the posts at the top were written ages ago.

anyway, where was i? so she left the company. i wanted to ask her to join me for lunch or whatever. but i think i did well to not complicate things and having left her alone.

i have talked just about her in the blog i guess. expect for one off instances.

i want to talk about others. i am going through a different phase i guess. there is one who is married and is the closest to royalty.

and i am beginning my second inning as a full time project manager. i know i will forget about sas. but i have felt what it means to know that you are the best on one of the fields. and that feeling is awesome.

Posted in: on Thursday, June 23, 2011 at at 11:19 PM  

I have to get done with this in 15 minutes. In fact I think I should complete it in 5 minutes.

This is my kind of start to a post.

Anyway, like it has been for past few posts, even this post will be loaded with heavy dose of philosophy. Anyway, where was I? I am listening to Romeo and Juliet. Isn’t it just wonderful?

There was a phase when I was fascinated with phrases. There is this phase now when I am fascinated by words. Is that part of evolution? What is evolution by the way? More importantly how do we differentiate between evolution and degradation. Anyway, this will be material for another post. Now is the time to talk about words.

But before that I have had some phrases borrowed from our SVP and I would like to remember them. In one of the training meeting – he elaborated on what is meant by ‘comfortable under your skin’. Will you be comfortable under your skin – if you are naked? – he added.

He also talked about how ‘truth should not come in the way of expressing it’. I think I didn’t hear it properly and I improvised.

Coming back to words – ‘consistency’ is another word that I am fascinated with recently. Most of our behavioral patterns are explainable when we look for consistency. People have related consistency of your treatment of other people with your idea of justice. Prejudiced, are we?

‘Admiration’ I have talked about before.

Here goes the beep. And here go I.

Posted in: on Monday, May 16, 2011 at at 9:17 PM  

i am reading a lot on 'quality' lately. you know, like, we all want to be good, but what exactly is 'good'? is it relative or is there an absolute 'good'? this all started when i completed reading zen and art of motorcycle maintenance. i did not understand it completely but still there is someone who thought about this question and took the trouble of writing a book that was rejected by 20 publishers. i can only guess the reason for rejection.

anyway, i just completed reading another book, lila, by the same author. here he talks about morality. as the author even i think there is a direct connection between quality and morality. morality, the guiding force of a society thrives (should thrive) to preserve what is good.

anyway, i get 'what are you always thinking?' a lot from many people lately. i don't take it as a compliment anymore.

i had some more thoughts on communication. the need of it. and how it should never be undervalued. there are two parts to it if you undervalue it. one, you think you have something to say that nobody can understand. a misplaced sense of superiority. two, you just lack that drive to connect to another human being. only real time experience can correct your theoretical knowledge you picked from all those books. plus what else is exciting in life except for those moments when you connect. human existence will always need validation.

amongst all this philosophical thinking about quality and life, i hope i dont take myself too seriously. i tend to do that very often. one of the reasons i get very impatient lately.

and i wanted to write about you. i know you have asked me to write about you before. every time i think that i have you figured, you have me shaken up. you think that you are the mature one between us - which is exactly what i think about myself.

Posted in: on Wednesday, May 4, 2011 at at 11:49 PM  

its been some time since i have been thinking about the human need to communicate. you know i have always been told that i needed to improve my communication. yeah, in those one-on-ones, where it is mandatory to always tell people improvements area. i can appreciate it more now that i am on other side of table. yeah i am almost a manager now. hehe. (that is one joke that i have cracked in a long time!)

anyway, coming back to point. communication. earlier i thought that it was because of 'that' lag when i tried talking in english. but my written english is quite good as you all have already witnessed by now. (thats two in a row. and btw this does not disprove the hypothesis.)

but lately, i have discovered multiple layers of communication and it all comes down to trust i guess. trust that the person will be able to understand what you want to say. and its a thin line. quite often it leads to presumption. that the person already understands that you want to say. otherwise, that the person will never understand what you want to say. and there is 'lost in translation' shit that i have talked about earlier.

anyway, the point is that i have stopped caring so much about my bad communication skill mainly because my lack of faith in people. and that is not good.

in a side news, i was talking to chaure today and he told me about this dream that he has had. he went to a girls place. then the girl insisted that he teaches him some subject. something happened as he was teaching her and they started kissing. french kissing to be specific. and it was all too confusing to him. he thought that he was having a dream within the dream when he kissed the girl. sarafat ki imtihaan ho gayee. i told him that he will have to go to level 4 if the dream involved a sequence with more than kissing in it.

i also wanted to talk about nature of admiration. how it can bond people when the center of admiration for them is the same person. and how it can create friction if two persons are competing for same admiration. its funny at times.

Posted in: on Sunday, April 3, 2011 at at 11:02 PM  

Today, I was extremely sad. The whole day. I could not go home. Everyone called and told me that they missed me. Work Sux big time. I feel like quitting it all. I know for sure that it is not worth it at all.

then i thot. and i realized that i will never be happy again. i was watching 'Touch' and i knew that i will never be able to sit on a bench in front of a garden and be happy knowing that I exist. Its been so long that I connected with a fellow human being. Most of the time i am in front of my laptop. Rest of the time in front of TV. Rest of the time mobile. Rest of the time I am trying to sleep. Rest of the time I am trying to read.

my list of resolution, mostly quit -
1. smoking
2. watching tv
3. late night work hours
4. watching porn
5. self persecution

do -
1. breath
2. talk
3. just know that you are not a president running a country
4.

Posted in: on Monday, March 21, 2011 at at 12:20 AM  

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